Pay it Forward - It's About Love

Selflessness is the sincere concern for the well being of others. It’s about love. It’s about compassion. It’s about kindness and faith. It’s about making a difference in the world. It's about paying it forward, and lending a helping hand when you are in the position to do so. Whether it's paying for the person behind you in line or finding a family to sponsor during the holidays, nothing feels better than giving.

And so seeing that today is "Pay it Forward" day I wanted to take the opportunity to tell you about someone who is near and dear to my heart. Someone who himself has given to many people in his lifetime. The person I am talking about is my Uncle Darrell. My uncle has been diagnosed with Squamous Cell Carcinoma and it has advanced to Stage 4. He has been getting treatments at Mayo Clinic since last Fall. But unfortunately, the treatments there did not work and because this type of Cancer is so rare, he is now in treatment at the Moffit Research Hospital in Tampa, Florida. We are praying with all of our heart that the treatments at Moffit will be answer to our prayers. 

Let me tell you a little about my uncle Darrell... He and my Aunt Robin have been married for 24 years. Robin and Darrell have raised a family of three children and the youngest is graduating high school in about a month. Darrell has always been the kind of dad that was always there for his family and was there for other people's children as well. 

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He was Vice President of little league for many years and he coached football and baseball for 18 years. Then when his son Chad was a junior and senior in high school they coached Pop Warner football together. Darrell given a lot of his time and heart to the children of Jacksonville Beach. 

In addition, Darrell has always thrived on working hard for his family also. But, it hasn't always been easy. Just a couple of weeks ago he had to quit working. A very hard but, necessary decision that he and his doctors made. He will be traveling to Tampa from Jacksonville weekly for treatments. Now without work and waiting for disability to kick in they have financial stress on top of an already stressful time. They have medical bills from Mayo Clinic that have been adding up since last year and now there are travel and medical bills from this year and much more to come. Not to mention normal monthly bills. 

We are hoping that these treatments will extend his life for a lot of years and the program that he is in at Moffit will soon find a great treatment for others with this type of cancer. And so if you're sitting there asking yourself today how you might pay it forward and make a huge difference in someone else's life... I'd like to invite you to join me in donating as I am asking everyone I know to please consider helping a wonderful person that has always been so kind and so generous to others. My goal is to help to give their family one less stress to worry about and I'm asking you all to join me!

Thank you so much for your generosity and prayers. I know that he would be so grateful for even the smallest of donations. Every single dollar helps and it is truly appreciated. To make a donation, please visit: GiveForward -Thank you so much. Paying it forward is truly a beautiful thing - Chrissy

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Chrissy Arpie Ott

Chrissy Arpie Ott is the founder of The Perfect Palette. Since its launch in 2008, The Perfect Palette has been the go-to color resource for couples who dream of a unique, creative and colorful wedding day.

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20 Comments " Pay it Forward - It's About Love "


Chrissy, I'm so sorry to hear your uncle's been unwell–nothing is more challenging, and I am thinking of you all while he works toward health.

Bajan Wed

Truly sorry to hear about your uncle, I have one who is fighting cancer as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Dress For The Wedding April 24, 2014

Chrissy, this is such a beautiful thing you're doing and you've written such wonderful words about your uncle. I'm hoping for healing and recovery for him. My thoughts are with you and your family. I will share this payitforward message.

The Bridal Detective April 24, 2014

I lost my aunt to cancer last year so my heart goes out to you and your family. I hope for healing and full recovery for your uncle. Your words were truly heartfelt.

Chelsea // Tidewater and Tulle April 24, 2014

It's so awful to hear cancer invades so many lives still to this day despite the research and medical technology... I know a lot of us have been personally affected by it. Your uncle sounds like an amazing man! Many prayers to you and your loved ones for healing. <3

Stephanie (Fab You Bliss)

Such a beautifully written post. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family for strength and to your uncle for a healing answer soon. xoxo

Erika {Borrowed&Bleu} April 24, 2014

What a beautiful and inspiring post, Chrissy. It's so hard to watch a loved one fight against cancer. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sara Burnett

Donating now & keeping your Uncle and your whole family in my thoughts. xo


We used this for our wedding and it turned out absolutely amazing! The colors worked great with the season (early autumn) and with the venue, an old country house from the 18th century. Just wanted so say thank you for this wonderful palett!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you so much everyone! I truly do appreciate the kind words, the prayers, and the generous donations. You guys are the best!!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you again, Sara! I said, it once and I'll say it again! You'll have a friend in me for life!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you so much. I appreciate it.

The Perfect Palette

Thank you, Stephanie :) I so appreciate the prayers!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you so much, Erika! Hugs!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you for the very kind words, Chelsea! And thank you for the prayers. They are greatly appreciated!!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you :) I so appreciate the kind words of encouragement and support! xx

The Perfect Palette

Thanks, Sukey :) I appreciate your sharing my message! More than you know!

The Perfect Palette

Thank you for the prayers! They are so appreciated.

The Perfect Palette

Thank you, Lena for the sweet message.

cathy begun

Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

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